Facing a major life change?

  • A death
  • Divorce
  • Bankruptcy
  • Illness
  • Disability
  • Trauma

Trouble with the positives?

  • Birth of a child
  • Promotion
  • Graduation
  • Retirement
  • Marriage
  • Sudden success/wealth
  • Recognition/fame

All of these events have both a loss and a gain aspect. Grief is the way you will make sense of them and find a place for them in your lives.

Another place to look for validation and support is Integra

Are you asking:

Are you depressed? Or is it grief?

How do I master grief?

Who holds your hope?

What is the place of spirituality in grief?

What can help?

  • Books/literature
  • Movies
  • Music
  • Creative expression
  • Restorative justice
  • Inspiring stories

This site is devoted to helping you understand how grief, the mourning of significant losses, can be a source of healing, restoration and even growth.

What is here:
There are resources here for those wishing to understand in depth the process of grief. It is aimed at professional caregivers, but it is easily accessible to those who wish to understand themselves and develop a healing community of support for others.

This is not your grandfather’s grief site!
Most sites you will find are focused on the devastation of grief and how to cope with it, and survive its ravages. While that is incredibly important to validate, so is the hope that grieving is about—that life not only can go on, but can be learned from, healed, and lead to creativity, forgiveness and growth. The latter you won’t find in many sites you visit. We call it “transformative grief”.

-- John Schneider, PhD


Material for MHPCO

Holding Hope In Times Of Darkness:
Applying Restorative Justice To
Victims And Offenders

Presenter: John M. Schneider, PhD
details here

What To Do When Everything Has Been Lost

The overwhelming media presentations of man made and natural disasters at the start of the 21st century has made it difficult to evade imagining what it would be like to lose everything in an instant.  We can know what it is like to be “poor like that” and know we are just a hair’s breath away from being that way ourselves. (read the full article here)


How Loss and Grief Create Who We Are

We are of the nature to change.  What is basic to that nature? What is it that allows to recognize defining moments while moving us through the time and space between birth and death? What creates the responses to those defining moments that create our life story? That basic nature, those responses, that movement and creation involves the capacity to grieve each change we face. (read the full article here)

Resources

Let me not pray to be sheltered from dangers,

But to be fearless in facing them.

Let me not beg for the stilling of my pain,

But for the heart to conquer it.

Let me not look for allies in life’s battlefields,

But to my own strength.

Let me not crave in anxious fear to be saved,

But hope for the patience to win my freedom.

Grant me that I may not be a coward,

feeling your mercy in my success alone,

But let me find the grasp of your hand in my failure.

-- Rabindranath Tagore